I really like hearing from a teacher about some unique facet (the good kind!) of my child’s abilities, but I’m never quite sure how to respond. If I take it as a compliment, then I feel the need to downplay. Which is illogical, because it’s not meant as a compliment to me. Nor is it meant as a compliment at all. I think I need to thank the teacher for showing me something my child is good at, that I probably haven’t noticed as something out of the ordinary compared to other children. Cryptic enough?
Maybe I should take the time for the specifics. Once over the summer, at the end of his summer arts program, the drawing teacher told me he has a very good understanding of colour, more advanced than the older kids he’s working with. As in, he has a real talent. Such a proud knitting mama I am about that one! I’m sure it has everything to do with all the yarn around the house. (yes, mom, and the fabric you two play with!) I kid, I kid. And again, last night, one of the after school program teachers told me that my son has a very good memory (he set up a chess board on his own), especially for his age.
I need to figure out how to respond in a way that shows my appreciation for the teachers, my pride in my son’s abilities, and yet keeps me from sounding conceited and pompous. (Yes, I’m very proud of him! And excited to see artistic abilities! Hurrah!)
I should probably say something along the lines of, “thank you for pointing that out to me. I’m so close to him, it’s hard for me to see.” Or just, “thank you.” What do you think?
While I’m asking, how the h e doublehockeysticks do we deal reasonably with homework?!? I want him to be able to deal with these things in a better way than I do myself (backload of charting, anyone?). I sat with him while he moaned and groaned and cried and whined for nearly an hour last night (and still didn’t finish). I was thinking how much he sounds out loud like I sound in my own mind, as I try to make myself do something. With about the same effectiveness. Granted, it was a late night. We really shouldn’t have bothered starting the homework, considering the hour. But I really didn’t want it all to do the next night still.
Maybe tonight I’ll tell him he can have ten five two minutes to fuss and whine if he needs to, then he should focus right in on the work and get it done. Because it doesn’t take long to do. Maybe I should try that right now with my own work?